Okay...just gotta vent here....

What would ya'll do if a playing partner not only missed his tee time but refused to pay you back for the money you spent prepaying the tee time on ezlinks?

Get A Gun and Talk nicely.....

There isn't much you can do about the money, but I had a similar problem on Monday when one of my foursome didn't show. Luckily, there was a single waiting for an opening, so we were able to get the full discount, otherwise I'd have had to cover the difference.

I won't ask him to play again.

That's not just golf etiquitte, that's life etiquitte. Unless it was somehow YOUR fault that HE missed the tee time, he should be apologizing to you and reimbursing you without complaint. I would be sure that all the others in the group are aware of this as well as any other golfer he and you may know. Hopefully they will all contribute to embarrassing him into paying you back by making him realize how selfish he is being. Good luck.

No...we won't be asking him to join us again the future. Yes, everyone in our golf circle is aware of the situation. Kind of funny, though...it's not the money that bothers me. It's the whole concept of the situation. I would never have thought that such a situation could ever be possible. I mean....I guess where I come from, missing a tee time is a cardinal sin. It is just not allowed unless a funeral or something equally chaotic happens to conflict with the tee time at the last minute. His excuse was....he overslept.

bjohn13 wrote:

His excuse was....he overslept.

Poor excuse if you ask me. Sounds like he really didn't want to play with you guys. If he cared about continuing the friendship he would pay you the fees; I don't think he cares. Is this a teenage kid we're talking about?

greendevil wrote:

bjohn13 wrote: His excuse was....he overslept. Poor excuse if you ask me. Sounds like he really didn't want to play with you guys. If he cared about continuing the friendship he would pay you the fees; I don't think he cares. Is this a teenage kid we're talking about?

No...believe it or not...it was a co-worker.

I play with a lot of teenage kids that I meet out on the golf course, and believe it or not, I think that every single one of them has more respect than this (at least the ones I see on a regular basis, who also tend to be the ones who would rather be on the golf course than anywhere else in the world and are committed to improving their games). I don't think I'd ever front a green fee for any of them, either, unless I knew their parents extremely well.

bjohn13 wrote:

No...believe it or not...it was a co-worker.

Must be a co-worker thing. Same thing happened to me. He's on vacation this week so I don't know why he didn't show. My guess is he's going to say he "forgot" (which translates to, "I was already drunk, and couldn't drive.")

At least you know where his priorities lie in both business and social situations. The monetary loss on the green fee may hurt, but the long term knowledge you now have that you cannot rely on him in business is invaluable to you. Now you know that if your career was on the line, he values you less than the green fee. It will come back to bite him if he ever wants to get a promotion or some other "kudos" in your company and you have any say in the matter.

Having said that, I regularly sponsor some of my client's golf habits... and more than once I had a last minute cancellation. I am almost to the point now where I collect the green fee up front, and then give it back to them when they show! Of course when a client gets golf for free, they sometimes don't respect it as much.

Good point, atx. Your post actually helped me to realize something.

I've always said that if I borrow someone $50 and never see him/her again, it was probably money well spent. I guess in this case, I got my money's worth.

[quote="DougE"]. Unless it was somehow YOUR fault that HE missed the tee time

how would that even be possible?

besides, he should be reimbursing you no matter how he was late. i know how you feel. i once made an early morning tee time for me and 3 friends and 2 of the friends did not show up because "they didn`t want to get up so early" and we were stuck paying a $50 no show fee for EACH person who missed the time, and they refused to pay me back. i was pretty pissed.